Friday, January 17, 2014

Good evening.  Not much to say today, but I want to be in the habit of writing every day, so here we are. Let's start with the good news:

1.  I got to ride my Harley to work today.  It was about 40 degrees when I left this morning, but so what?
2.  My car may not be totaled.  I hope not.  It's paid for, it's got new tires, new water pump, battery, and I just installed a Sirius/XM Satellite radio (a Christmas present to myself, than you very much).  I am hoping to get another 130,000 or so miles out of that unit.
3.  I continue to receive messages of support and love.  Lisa B. wrote: I start reading and I can't stop...u r an amazing human being, heart and soul... you are truly loved.  Yes, Lisa, I am.  I cannot deny that...  My coworker, Mo, sent such positive thoughts and well wishes (you can read her comments after my most recent posts).  My Samohi students continue to reach out and support me well beyond the classroom. The love has lifted me and carried me forward.  I have so much I want to do; thank you for pushing me, supporting me, sharing with me...

The bad news?

1.  It cost me a thousand dollars to drive a student home last night...  Now, this is in no way, shape, or form HIS fault.  It is clearly my own fault, but it did put a cherry on a particularly difficult week...  Anyway, I'm the one with the $1000 deductible on my auto insurance, but that's what broke people do; we look for ways to cut corners so that we can stretch our dollars.  (At least I have insurance! - I should have entered this under the good news column...)

That's about it for the bad news....  I talked to my brother, Danny, on the phone today about 4 times.  We are very, very close, but phone conversations have never been our thing...  We did share a mental health break over the phone, which was nice.  I also talked to my daughter, my son, and my mom and dad... So that's a good day!

I'm also delighted that my son is reading the blog.  You talk about someone who cuts through the bullshit, he is the one...  He will call you out in a heartbeat if he thinks you're being an idiot.  Thanks, Kenny.  I think you are an incredible human being - smart, outgoing, mechanically gifted, an excellent problem-solver, and a fun person to hang with...  I've had many regrets in my life regarding my relationship with you, but there are only a few moments I'd like to take back...  The one that haunts me is my comment to you when you told me that you were going to join the Marines instead of pursuing college.  If I recall, I said something to the effect of, "Good, because you are not college material..."  The unsaid part of that sentence, the part that perhaps I did say and you didn't hear, or maybe I didn't add it, was..  "... at this point in time." Let's face it - you thought you were in love, you were having second thoughts about everything - including your enlistment.  It is - and always will be - my position that 17, 18, and 19 year-old high school graduates GENERALLY SPEAKING are not well enough equipped at that age to be making decisions regarding colleges, majors, careers, etc. until they have lived life a little bit.  I believe strongly that 2 years (or so - depending again on the individual) should be spent in volunteer work, in the service, working, traveling, exploring, learning outside the classroom.  I fear that my careless words damaged our relationship in profound ways.  Let me reiterate - I think you are an awesome human being, capable of remarkable things... I can't wait to see what you're going to do next!  I love you, son, and I believe in you. Don't ever doubt that...

I think that's all I've got in me tonight.  Tomorrow will reveal it's joys and challenges in the morn; and I will write more then.  Good night.

Carpe Diem.











6 comments:

  1. Ken,
    We have known each other since kindergarten, funny how time flies... You were one of my first friends, still are! I don't usually post things like this online because the inflection and intent of the spoken word can't be transmitted by text alone. Know this, cancer does not define who you are! You are you! It is something that you happen to have, there are far too many of us that have had to deal with it in our lives. I pray that you will have the same success in you fight with cancer as I've had with mine. On March 23 of this year I will be three years cancer free! Be strong and know that whatever treatment you choose, it will be the right one for you.

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  2. Congratulations on your successful cancer battle! I am sure you will remain cancer-free!!! I know something will kill me someday, but it ain't gonna be this, and it ain't gonna be today!!!! Be well, my friend - when are we gonna ride?

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    1. I'll be out your way in June with 3 guys I ride with, we are still in the planning stages of the ride so once it's finalized I'll send you the link.

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  3. I read this post a couple of times now and up until now i couldn't reply. Just didn't have the words...
    Your right, our relationship has definitely had its up and downs. I don't know if any father and son that don't, we are all in fact, just like each other, with our mother sprinkled in for added drama....
    At times, i hated you, wished i could grow up to be nothing like you. I of course was an idiot. You are a great person with a big heart, a great father and now a great (grandfather) not yet a great grandfather... You will be one day tho....scary! You taught me a lot, but the one thing i will always be happiest you taught me was the responsible game of golf. I look forward to many more rounds with you! Love you pops...get well soon, or ill kick your ass.

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    1. Kenny (AKA hoser): That honesty right there is exactly what I'm talking about. I know there were times we couldn't even speak to each other without getting pissed off - thankfully those days appear to be well in the rear view mirror now. Just as your reply is as honest as they come, please know that the entry I made is the same for me... I love you, I respect you, I'm proud of you, I trust you, I know you have greatness in you...

      Thank you for being you. We may have disagreements in the future, but don't cry when I kick your ass on the golf course next...

      PS - I know you are smarter now because you realized that I'm not so bad afterall... Hee hee...

      Love you.

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  4. Wow, it never ceases to amaze me how clear and concise people begin to think and the things they need to express when someone realizes how precious life is. I almost feel like I'm eavesdropping on a private conversation but thank you for sharing! This is a beautiful example of how it's never too late to tell someone you're sorry or how much you love them! Life is full of mistakes, but one should never have regrets. Whether good or bad, everything teaches you a lesson and there is something to be learned from all of life's experiences.

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